Ricky Martin - Another One for All

So how about we skip all the sarcastic remarks such as...

"Wow...big surprise."

"He should have done this years ago."

...and just go with...

"Good for you...and good for us. Wishing you nothing but the best!"

Losing My Religion?

Talking to my mother the other day, and marveling at how conservative one of my siblings has become, she told me an interesting story about one of the ministers at her church.

What she told me, was something along the lines of...

"One of our ministers was talking about his children, and he casually mentioned that one of his sons is gay...and he didn't even blink or duck his head as he said it."

This minister is 80 years old.

Fun with Politics

So they'll be more careful about when or how they ask?

...but once they do ask...being a homosexual is still unacceptable?

Maybe this is a step forward that they think the conservatives can swallow? Seems fairly feeble to me, but if it's heading towards a complete ban of DADT...

Growing Up Down South

From one of my favorite blogs, Towleroad...

Very sad to see this young man being treated so badly (including the treatment he's getting from his parents), but I also have to say I have a lot of respect for someone so young being so brave and honest.

He only wanted to take his boyfriend to prom. In many articles these days you read more and more about how tolerant and open the younger generation is...but of course there are still exceptions...probably more prevalent in the south.

Also interesting how the biggest problem for both fellow students, and his mother, is all the attention this has brought to them.

As I've mentioned before...keeping up appearances...

Self Analysis

Fear is a bitch!

Sometimes I find my fear of failure is paralyzing, and as a result I don't always try...

I must learn that not trying is the failure...

As corny as it sounds there's truth to it. If something doesn't work, at least you tried and were probably either more successful than you thought, or at least you learned something.

If you do nothing, failure is easily achieved.

It makes me furious...

...when someone says being gay is a choice. Perhaps I say this because I spent at least 15 years trying to choose not being gay. During this period I was having sex with other guys (one who was eventually married), while telling my girlfriends that I didn't believe in pre-marital sex.

I can say I did almost everything possible to convince myself that I'm not gay, but since I first started to accept that I was gay (roughly 7 years ago), I've realized it's how I was made.

Perhaps there are some who are "middle of the scale" bi-sexual who might make a choice one way or the other, once finding a life-partner, but put a naked guy and a naked girl in front of me there's no choice between what's real and what's pretending.

There's a John Stewart quote that every straight person should consider, "...and when did you choose to be straight?"

Growing Up Down South

My southern family is quite sheltered and in some ways quite naive. I think that some of the sheltered life they have lived is by choice...perhaps a choice of safety. They are also extremely influenced by appearances. This has multiple facets to it but one tough part about this for me was being so concerned about what others might think of you. Meaning what would they think of you if you wore the wrong kind of shoes, or what might be perceived as a strange shirt...much less something along the lines of being gay...

My Mom reminded me of her innocence the other day. Since I live far away and we talk regularly on the phone, our conversations seem to have developed to a level of her being more comfortable telling me things about herself. (She and I have always been the ones who related the best to each other in the family.)

The other night, while she was talking about a recent doctor's appointment, she commented on how she hates the fact that she is ticklish and always giggles when a doctor touches her stomach. She said that she's always worried that this would cause the doctor to think she was sexually attracted to him.

I told her I'm sure many people are ticklish and I'm sure doctors see it all the time.

Fun with Politics

A couple of reasons to stop being so hard on Obama and the Democrats...both brought to us via Boy Culture...one of my favorites.

Middle of the Roadkill

Taken for a Ride